@Jorodyn: So I take it Steave is always like this?
And I take no offense to your caution with the pronouns. While I've met various women named 'Jackie' or 'Jaquelin' (with various spellings on both), I did once meet a woman who goes by 'Jack.' So it wasn't an unreasonable caution.
And, if it helps, I have no issue with using 'they' as a gender-undefined singular pronoun. 'They' has been used as gender-neutral singular for hundreds of years--it's only by early twentieth-century convention that this has changed. At some point around the turn of the century, the uptight, sexist, and often ethnocentric grammar-Nazis who make these decisions decided that since 'they' and 'their' can refer to a group, we should quit using them as a singular pronoun and start using 'he' and 'his' instead whenever the gender of the subject is unknown. Toward the middle of the century, however, the feminist movement took offense to the use of 'he' and 'his', since the subject could very well be a woman. Rather than going back to using 'they' and 'their', however, the feminists muddied the waters further by insisting on clumsy constructions like 'he/she', 's/he', and 'his/her.'
Isn't grammar history nifty?
