CCC wrote:A prospective groom will pay his future in-laws an amount (known as lobola) for his future bride (apparently this can be claimed back should the wife turn out to be barren). Traditionally, it is paid in cattle (in traditional Zulu culture, cattle were a sign of wealth) - the amount to be negotiated between the groom and the father.
Kea wrote:Editing to add: And even if it wasn't a gay wedding and was totally platonic, I think it says something about modern Western society that we're now way too squeamish to celebrate Guy Love* in such a public and overt way.
arcosh wrote:I agree that sex is interpreted into things way too often. People who get along well with each other and are a good team, sure have sex (thankfully family members are an exception here, as long as people know about family ties). That works with any combination of sexes. At least if the group consist of more then 2 people, there is not (yet?) the assumption of group sex.
Steave wrote:I guess my real gripe is; why the Hel does it matter? If I interact socially with a group of people who are all very close to each other, if they are all having sex behind closed doors doesn't change the way I socially interact with them.
arcosh wrote:Steave wrote:I guess my real gripe is; why the Hel does it matter? If I interact socially with a group of people who are all very close to each other, if they are all having sex behind closed doors doesn't change the way I socially interact with them.
It starts to matter once romantic interests become an option. If someone supposedly part of a couple makes a pass on you, does that mean it's pure social flirting, without intent, that the supposed relationship is open, that it just falls apart, that someone plans adultery, that the supposed relationship does not exist at all?
And if you are single and available, then being rumored to be bound, is likely not what you want.It might discourage people to show interest in you.
And it's generally annoying if people know things about you, that are not true.
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